1. Have you and your spouse agreed to live in separate locations (a geographical bachelor tour) knowing that the short-term inconvenience would have long-term benefits for your family? How did it work for you? submitted by When Good People Get Together
Senior Jefe and I have been doing this for 3 yrs now so that I could complete my PhD and let me tell you, it was fine at first, but it is really starting to get old. As I have at least a year left, there is nothing I can do about it, so there is little point in complaining. I think the hardest thing for me is living in a place where I feel like I walk with a foot in 2 worlds, but neither really seems to understand what I am going through. Beyond that, things are okay and I admit the ability to go to the same places, see the same friends and feel like my life has a routine is the biggest benefit.
2. What is your favorite thing about being a MilSpouse? submitted by Sarah Ruth Today
It has given me an opportunity to expand my understanding of people's cultural experiences in a new direction. It's one thing to think you understand what people are like, it's quite another thing to live in a community and learn about people.
3. If you could still have your spouse/significant other and your family, but take the military life out of it...would you? submitted by Trust. Love. Believe. Bake.
No, ironically. Senior Jefe loves his career. It's something he's really passionate about. We made a pact long before we got married that neither one of us would interfere with the other's career. This makes him happy. When and if he decides he's done, we'll be done, but no matter how much it hurts sometimes, I would never ask him to give it up a second sooner.
4. What have your homecoming experiences been like after a year long tour of separation? submitted by Army Soldier, Army Wife
Well, we've never done a full year anywhere, given the Navy thing. However, things used to be really awkward after the first couple homecomings. We are both really independent people and I hate to say it but we both kind of didn't know how to be a couple again. It took a while. Now, things are easier. We fall into an easy rhythm that is never quite the same as last time, but seems to be comfortable for us.
5. If you have a child(ren) why you chose their name(s)? If not, why you would name your child something? submitted by Tiara's & ACU's
I don't have kids. I've never thought about hypothetical kids' names. I guess I like to do things 1 thing at a time. I never planned my hypothetical wedding either. It happened. It was fine. So I guess I don't worry abut chickens before they hatch. It far too often has lead to disappointment for me. Instead, I tend to aim high, but keep actual expectations low, so most days end up being filled with wonderful surprises. If this wonderful surprise shows up, I'll welcome it. Until then, I have other things that need doing.
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